Your Sex History

What You’ll Learn

• Why it’s worth the effort and time to write your sex history.

• Writing your sexual experiences is a powerful way to become more self-aware and intentional about your future sexual fulfillment. 

• When you write the exceedingly icky parts of your Sex History, the faster your sexual awakening.

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What Is Your Sex History?

Your Sex History is everything that has happened to you that falls under the umbrella of sex. It doesn’t necessarily mean full-on intercourse but rather every past experience that now influences how you see yourself as a sexual being. And how these experiences culminate in you expressing yourself with partners. 

Writing out your sex history unlocks your past so you can free your future sexual self.

Your best sex can only happen when you are authentic and vulnerable.

You are probably not aware of any sexual patterns and habits you've carried throughout your lifetime. Expressing your feelings about what you've experienced can be an emotional release that helps you make sense of things instead of holding them in. Like having a conversation with yourself, writing can be a healthy way to work through your feelings.

Many of these patterns and habits have a strong emotional charge attached to them. When you write memories, it’s like you’re transporting all these hefty emotional charges on a bus from the emotional side of your brain to the logical side. 

When you’re in your logical brain, you can name this big emotion, break down why it affects you so deeply, and then hold it up to the sunlight to see through it. This memory isn’t so scary anymore.

Writing your experiences is a powerful way to become more sexually self-aware.

Writing Out Your Sex History

The best way to write out your Sex History is your way.

Please do not get stuck in perfection paralysis. Most people never communicate about sex. Suddenly, you have to put descriptive sentences together about your sex life. So, above all the visceral emotions your sex history will dredge up, there’s the anxiety of not being able to write out your thoughts in a coherent way. 

Don’t worry about the sentence structure. This is not an exercise in perfection. This is about you tapping into things that might be holding your sexuality back.

It’s far better to write your Sex History out in a messy, haphazard way–than not to do it at all.

There isn't a best way to write out your sex history.

• Use a scrap piece of paper or the back of an envelope.

• Buy a beautiful journal that gives you happy feels.

• Open a Word or Google document or the audio recorder on your phone.

You might prefer to write down your memories chronologically from when you were young to the present day or in no particular order. This is your story, so do it in whatever way works best for you. Your subconscious will bring up new memories, so keep space in your journal for more entries.

There will be a lot of reasons you’ll want to procrastinate. No one wants to dig up old memories that you’ve managed to forget. Or you might feel like this is too complicated. It’s not. Once you start, memories will be like dominoes–you get one, more come.

The point is to start. Starting is key. 

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Write down everything you remember; no memory is too small or insignificant. If you don't know where to start, write down pivotal moments like your first kiss, crush, masturbation, sexual encounter, relationship, and orgasm. 

As you write, pay close attention to how your body reacts, whether it's a positive sexual feeling (a smile, giggle, or butterflies in your stomach) or a negative feeling (your throat or chest tightens or your gut clenches). Your body is telling its story, so listen closely.

Fearlessly Write Your Sexual Shame

The important thing is to fearlessly write down the parts you rarely, if ever, have shared, like shame, rejection, ignorance, trauma, or any other difficult part(s) of your sexual experience. The more detailed you can be about specific events, especially the icky stuff, the faster and easier this process will be.

When you write out something that’s been sitting inside of you for a very long time, it’s a win and reason for celebration. And you will feel lighter without that baggage.

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Wrap Up

• Writing out your sex history unlocks your past and frees your future sexual self.

• Your new awareness creates a more intentional sex life.

• There is no right or wrong way to write your sex history.

• Just start. Starting is key.

• Dredging up memories can be challenging, but you are worth it.

• Pay attention to the story your body is telling.

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