- Jan 5, 2026
5 Sex’perts Advice-How to Make this your best sexual year ever
- Trina Read
- The Pursuit of Pleasure Podcast
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Sex is the glue that holds a couple together through thick and thin. But when you’ve been with one person for many years, it can be tricky to light that spark.
I challenged five sex experts (including myself) to answer one question: “What’s your best advice for making 2026 your best sexual year yet?”
Wondering what trends are shaping intimacy in 2026? Check out our Sex’perts predictions on this year’s biggest sex trends first.
Before we start, I challenge you and your partner to find at least one idea from the following five Sex’perts that’s going to help you both open up your sexual pleasure and fun.
Learn New Things Together
Susan Bratton, bestselling author and CEO of Personal Life Media, known as the “Intimacy Expert to Millions” emphasizes the power of novelty.
“My expert advice for having the best sex this year is to learn new things together. New relationship energy. When you think about a long-term relationship, it’s great because you’ve got a lot of trust, you feel seen, you feel cared for, but it can get a little boring. And so what creates more relationship energy, more excitement about your sexuality is beginning as beginners and trying new things together.”
Susan recommends couples check out resources like her sex life bucket list that gives them 48 different, very advanced, erotic play dates.
“They can see, ‘Oh my God, I never even thought we should try that’ or ‘I forgot about that’ or ‘We talked about it’ or ‘We did it once, let’s do it and get good at it.’ And I think that’s the thing that makes sex even better all the time.”
The secret? Approach new experiences as beginners together, creating that exciting “new relationship energy” even in long-term partnerships.
Treat Sex Like Anything Else You Love
Kevin Anthony, a Certified Sexologist, Tantra Counselor, and host of The Love Lab Podcast, delivers a wake-up call.
“My expert advice for having the best sex this year is to treat sex the way that you would treat anything else. In other words, when people are interested in something and they want to learn something or they want to be good at something, they put a ton of time and effort and energy into it. They’ll read books about it. They’ll watch YouTube videos about it. They’ll hire coaches for it, right? But then when it comes to sex, they just fumble around in the dark.”
Kevin asks us to think about it this way: Maybe you’re really into golf. You watch golf tutorial videos. You’re out there every weekend. You’re trying different clubs, anything to get an advantage.
“Treat sex like that. I’m going to be there every weekend. I’m going to try out some new toys. Right? I’m going to invest in it because that’s how you have a really great sex life. None of us were taught when we were younger what it means to have a really great sex life. So we have to learn it.”
His message is clear. If you’re going to invest time and energy in anything, wouldn’t you want to invest it in something that’s a lot of fun and really pleasurable?
“I know that new series on Netflix is entertaining, but is it as good as a really powerful orgasm? I think not. So make this year the best ever. Invest in yourself. Invest in your sex life. Take the time to really learn, explore.”
Ask What She Wants (And Help Her Receive It)
My advice for making this your best sexual year ever is for both of you to ask what she wants, and then help her actually receive the pleasure she asked for.
A lot of women don’t know what it feels like to fully relax into pleasure. Not because they’re “broken” or “too in their head” but because receiving is a skill. It takes practice.
“Receiving pleasure does not come naturally or spontaneously. This is a learned skill that requires practice and mastery.”
So here’s a radical idea, what if, once in a while, she puts her sexual needs first and taking care of her partner’s needs becomes secondary? That might feel edgy for some couples, but it can be a huge shift. Because when she stops managing everything, desire has room to come back.
And yes, I know the internal chatter that comes up: “My partner won’t want to do this.” My answer is your partner wants you to be sexually satisfied and they need you to tell them what satisfies you.
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Slow Down
Amy Rowan, The Suburban Sexologist and founder of Suburban Intimacy, offers advice that’s simple yet profound.
“My advice for having the best sex this year is very simple and it’s only two words. Slow down.”
Amy explains that most couples rush through sex the same way they rush through life, trying to get to the next thing. But when you slow down, you start to feel more, notice more, and connect more.
“When you can really slow down and savor the experience… you can get to such elevated heights of pleasure and connection.”
She also points out that slowing down isn’t just about making it “romantic.” It’s about making it better for everyone, because presence changes the whole experience.
“When you slow down… it completely transforms the way that you think about sex, the way that you approach it, the way that you desire it.”
Her bottom line, don’t rush to the finish line. Build the energy. Let pleasure be the point, and connection becomes the natural result.
Communicate About Sex
Dr. Laurie Mintz, bestselling author of Becoming Cliterate, therapist, and emeritus professor, shares advice she’s given for years—and will continue to give:
“My expert advice for having the best sex in this new year is the same advice that I have been giving for every year and will continue for every year going forward. And that is to communicate about sex.”
Dr. Mintz quotes one of her favorite clients: “Communication is the bedrock to make your bed rock.”
“And we know this is true. Couples who communicate effectively about sex have better sex and better relationship satisfaction.”
Her comprehensive approach to sexual communication includes:
Communicate outside the bedroom. Make it a part of jokes and innuendos, everyday conversations.
Communicate before sex. What are your boundaries? What do you want to do? What do you want to try? Even with a long-term partner.
Communicate during sex. Faster, slower, I want to try this.
Communicate after sex. How was that for you? And how could it be better? Did you like when I tried that new thing or not?
Communicate to solve any sexual problems that come up, but try to do so outside of the bedroom, not in the throes of passion.
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So what do these five experts want you to remember for 2026?
1. Novelty creates excitement. Learn new things together as beginners to reignite that new relationship energy.
2. Invest in your sex life. Treat it with the same dedication you’d give any hobby or passion you love.
3. Center her pleasure. Ask what she wants and create space for her to receive without guilt.
4. Slow down. Rushing kills pleasure. Savoring builds it.
5. Communicate constantly. Before, during, and after—communication is the bedrock of great sex.
The common thread? Intention. The best sex doesn’t happen by accident. It happens when couples make conscious choices to prioritize, explore, communicate, and slow down.
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Meet Our Featured Experts
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Susan Bratton, Intimacy Expert to Millions, CEO of Personal Life Media
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Kevin Anthony, Certified Sexologist & Host of The Love Lab Podcast
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Amy Rowan, The Suburban Sexologist, Founder of Suburban Intimacy
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Dr. Laurie Mintz Ph.D., Bestselling Author of Becoming Cliterate, Psychologist, Therapist & Emeritus Professor
